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The Doctor Just Said my Aunt has 1 Year To Live...
Never in my life have I ever been directly impacted by cancer or death. I had only heard of family members, or friends, or parents of friends, or people on the news dying of cancer. It wasn't until today did something so terrible like this happened.
My aunt made the announcement to my mother that the doctor said she only had 1 year to live. She has Stage IV Breast Cancer, meaning the cancer had spread through her body. My aunt couldn't even speak clearly because she was crying. I was never close to my aunt, but she always had a presence during family gatherings and parties.
What really worries me, however, is what she'll leave behind. Her daughter just turned 8 years old and I can't bear to think how she's going to feel knowing that her mother will be gone. We're even having arrangements so that my parents can adopt her when the time comes.
I honestly don't know what to do. I don't know how to feel. And the helplessness of it all is killing me.
I just felt like venting out my...feelings...and I'm sorry if I made you feel crummy. I just needed a medium to process what I'm thinking and the WB lounge was the first thing I could think of.
If you have any wisdom, please feel free to share.
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Regular Babbler
Sorry for your aunt perhaps you can spend some time with her try to make her happy..
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Hi Jay
I'm so incredibly sorry to hear the news but I'm glad we can be here for you to vent. This must be tough. I lost a friend to stage 4 breast cancer in 2011 and a couple of family members to cancer as well so I know what you're going through.
The best advice I can give is to spend as much time as you can with that person and shower them with love. Don't focus on the prognosis, but her life -- the here and now. My heart goes out to her 8 yr old daughter. It must be difficult for such a young child to process such a thing. Wow, I cannot imagine! But it's good she has family like you for support.
Stay strong and I will say a prayer for you and your family. We're here for ya, Jay!
Master Babbler
I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through. It is tough when a family member has been diagnosed with something like that. Just horrible.
I hope your aunt will fight as long as she is able, and perhaps 1 year may turn into 5 or 10. Doctors can be wrong too.
Take every moment you can with your family and enjoy the remaining times. My heart also goes out to the daughter. What a terrible age to lose a parent.
Wishing you some strength to you and your family during this tough time.
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Regular Babbler
This is indeed a sad news but you can not help the situation. I was really glad to know that your parents are doing such a noble thing by adopting the child, may God help you all. Your Aunt won't have to worry about her daughter's future on her death bed.
Master Babbler
Thank you for your kind words everyone. At the moment, my aunt appears to want to be alone, so there's really nothing anyone can do at the moment until she decides to let us into her life again. I can't imagine what she's thinking. Sometimes, I just wish the doctors didn't even say anything to her so she doesn't have to live her last moments in complete stress.
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