Hi (Bet you are all snug in bed now that I'm up

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OK, when I said treat me like an idiot - I really meant it in a nice way and here's why -
I cannot for the life of me see the difference between being told "dont use your URL etc" to someone who puts links to their site via a statement like "Make your website super dooper". Surely this is just symantics?
The link is obviously to your website - so why the double standards? If search engines rate you on links - why is it frowned upon to leave your URL?
Also, how does one link (via the above) on one forum help? Do you actually place the same links everytime you reply to a post?
If so, surely this shows that the "poster" or "repliers" main motive is self promotion and answering the question or giving advice is secondary.
Dont get me wrong, I have no issue with this but why the "covert" approach? Why not just place your URL?
And if you have 20 posts on a forum over a period of time and you use the above strategy do the search engines count 20 links or see them all as 1 link to ultimately the same site(s)?
Please dont get me wrong if my tone seems a bit off - I have answered many, many questions on my subject on different forums but I belived it was "bad practice" to self promote while doing so - it looks like I was wrong and have missed this "trick".
When you read stuff on SEO - you get info that is confusing and conflicting from different sources. My meta tags, page title etc related totally to my site's content - as do my keywords. My keywords are also used throughout my home page (trying to show relevance to the search engines). I have submitted a site map to google (nearly a year ago!) and still I dont appear unless someone actually searches directly for my site's name. But I do know I have virtually no external links - so this information will help me.
Anyway - thanks to all who replied. It's most interesting.
And to show I've got the hang of it - if any of you are struggling with the mental side of sport and want to know if Sports Psychology can help you with your game, this might help you . . .
Brian
Sport Psychology